Mature Manhood

Ephesians 4:13

…until we all attain to the unity of the faith and of the knowledge of the Son of God, to mature manhood, to the measure of the stature of the fullness of Christ

Yep, I’m still a kid at heart with a way to go before I grow up and find something to do which grownups are supposed to do. These are the words I jokingly respond whenever someone asks me what my career plans are now that I am semi-retired.

Society and culture always seem to have the ideal which in hindsight you eventually discover is most often the opposite of what you should have done in the beginning. The same can be said about Manhood in the 21st century.

In my lifetime, we have witnessed the slow destruction of fathers and mothers’ authority and responsibility in the home which has led to the self-imposed destruction of the nuclear family. The end result which we are now living through are lives with major mental health issues, young men confused with their masculine identity, and the loss of godly role model examples of men living a happy, successful, meaningful life for the benefit of others and self.

Paul identifies here in the Book of Ephesians 4:12-13 that the Church leadership is responsible to equip and buildup men to become mature followers of Jesus Christ measured against HIS stature.

As mature men, we are to follow the example and teachings of Jesus Christ in our everyday life. The problem is most men have a confused view of who Jesus IS and the life HE lived. We have tidbits of correct information intertwined with false illusions of bedtime stories.

When you grow up surrounded by men who walk with their Lord everyday within the home, business, and community, you discover how life can be rewarding and how great God IS. But when you lack such examples, or distorted fantasy figures portrayed through the movies, you are unsure how a mature, Christ-follower behaves. You fail to grasp what and how the abundant life as outlined throughout Scriptures is lived out in daily affairs.

So, if you are confused, then my recommendation is to find a small group of older men who have lived life to the full and will openly share their wisdom learned through hard knocks. Yes, there are godly men functioning each day in the marketplace. However, the culture ignores them because they don’t fit the secular narrative of the day. But I assure you, if you start attending a local Church, ask around, and you will find at least one person who will gladly mentor with you what real Christ-like masculine maturity looks like.

Jesus Christ is our perfect example of mature manhood. Study, learn, and grow in knowledge of HIM and HIS grace, and you will find yourself maturing like HIM. And with a small circle of other men, you will also find encouragement and examples of others growing up into HIS likeness.

The world needs more men reflecting the glory of Jesus Christ.

Rooting For You in Christ!

Dr. Mike

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Feeling Filter

John 8:32

and you will know the truth, and the truth will set you free.”

Inflated Feelings Face Filter | wadeandleta.com

Some people, if not many, operate from a base of feelings. They use their feelings to measure and evaluate the circumstances they are in. They believe their feelings are accurate and reflect reality at the moment. Yet scientists recognize feelings in many cases are deceitful.

We may incorrectly witness a situation which causes us to misread the event and fling our mind and body into unnecessary fear mode. Or we may likewise see something which we interpret as pleasant and smile at the situation not realizing that a most horrific event just occurred. If we evaluate and discern reality solely through the filter of feelings, we of most people will be walking in a state of mental confusion.

I recall once consulting with the President of a national company asking questions to determine his style of leadership and management. His answers initially shocked me but gave us the direction of the type of facts we needed to gather to either confirm or deny his statements. After collecting data, facts, and survey results, our hypothesis proved correct. His fear-mongering leadership style and managing operations based on feelings has led the company into a destructive position which required an outsider to provide solutions to help the Company survive. We did.

When you are ruled by your feelings, you may be correct fifty percent of the time simply from a probability perspective. However, if you want to be correct most of the time, then you need to filter your feelings with logic and reasoning built on evidential facts. And that requires a proven value system, a strong understanding of human history and its behavior, along with analysis of the situation. All these skills are available to be developed if one chooses.  

In addition, God has also given each of us a conscience to discern moral implications. But it needs to be exercised under HIS domain or over time will become harden into a destructive, blind, and ineffective instrument. Our conscience is God’s gift to us. When followed along with HIS words of Truth enlighten our decision-making abilities.

As we gather facts of the matter and weigh the facts against the event, we slowly develop the real picture of the situation. This is why it is dangerous to make quick decisions on a matter when it is not necessary. One needs to gather facts from all sides to properly determine what actually happen.

Our feelings may play a part of the equation, but most often they are only the warning bell. And like the story of the boy hollering “wolf” so often, basing one’s conclusion simply on feeling has led many of us down the wrong path. We need to filter those feelings against solid evidence. Otherwise, we will get into an ugly habit of being thrown from one wall against another based on our emotional roller coaster ride.

Feelings require facts and facts need emotional feeling. Both are necessary to properly evaluate reality and generate a proper response. When you study the life of Jesus as displayed throughout the gospel accounts, one finds a person who balanced facts with feelings and feelings with facts. He demonstrated the healthy and effective way of managing the human relationship. Let’s use HIM as our role model to learn the best way of filtering our feelings. When you learn from the best, you gain the most.

Rooting For You in Christ!

Dr. Mike

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Help, Hope, Hallelujah (H3)

Let us then with confidence draw near to the throne of grace, that we may receive mercy and find grace to help in time of need. Hebrews 4:16

For to this end, we toil and strive, because we have our hope set on the living God, who is the Savior of all people, especially of those who believe. 1 Timothy 4:10

Then I heard what seemed to be the voice of a great multitude, like the roar of many waters and like the sound of mighty peals of thunder, crying out, “Hallelujah! For the Lord our God the Almighty reigns. Revelation 19:6

Raise a Hallelujah – Bethel Lyrics

In reflection today, after taking time to pray, I found myself repeating these words – Help, Hope, and Hallelujah – several times crying for help from our Lord and simultaneously praising HIM for everything happening in my life.

I didn’t plan on repeating these words, and don’t recall when I may have combined the three together in one prayer, but today was one of those days.

When you need help from someone because the issue you are facing is larger than you; when your situation has turned bleak and the options don’t look favorable; or when you realize you haven’t celebrated anything about life for a long while, your heart simply cries emotionally the words you feel at the moment, and these three hung out there for the Lord to hear.

Now my problems aren’t anything compared to the many trials my brothers and sisters face each and every day, but today was one of those days where my world felt over loaded.  Without getting into details, today was one of those days where my little portion of the Kingdom was being overran by invisible, mental gremlins. For the moment, I had taken my eyes off the central core of my being, Jesus Christ. When I do, all the problems, trials, and tests of life seem overwhelming. All I want to do is quit the race, enter a monastery, and reflect on life rather than live it out.

I think most of you know what I mean.

Yet, as a Christ-follower, blessed with the experience of continual answered prayers, the knowledge and awareness of HIS presence on a regular basis, and the assurance given me through HIS Word and the heavenly fruit produced in me, I do have those days where one gets tired of hanging in there to finish the race.

One of my favorite Scriptures is Mark 13:13 – one who endures to the end will be saved. And Romans 5:4 where Paul writes endurance produces character, and character produces hope.

Yes, I am thankful when those overwhelming days come upon us, we have a Savior and Helper who provides us with Hope, and we can thank HIM with multiple Hallelujahs for hearing us and providing the resources to whither the storms in our lives.

So, if you are having one of those H3 days, and haven’t yet learned the joy of turning to HIM in prayer, why not put HIM to the test. You have the privilege to speak with the Creator of Heaven and Earth and ask HIM for assistance with your issues. He waits at the door and knocks (Rev. 3:20). You only have to open the door and HE will gladly join you in your corner of the world as you join HIM in HIS. Help, Hope, Hallelujah are all found in HIM.

Rooting For You in Christ!

Dr. Mike

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