Sexuality Trap

Hebrews 13:4

Let marriage be held in honor among all, and let the marriage bed be undefiled, for God will judge the sexually immoral and adulterous.

Yes, God created sex. Not only did HE create the biological male and female, but also the physical and emotional pleasure and enjoyment of the act. Like everything else HE designed, sex also has a purpose within HIS plan. Now God is not prudish but understands human behavior and emotion since HE purposely designed us with the sexual desire in place.

Now many of us in the 21st century erroneously believe freedom means choosing and doing whatever we desire. Yes, freedom gives you the option to choose whatever you desire, but each choice also has consequences. A choice that leads you to your destruction stills allows you to exercise your freedom, but the end result may remove any further freedom you possess.

The Bible instructs us how sex without Godly boundaries leads to a self-imposed dark hole. But on the other hand, sex with healthy boundaries leads to freedom of expression, intimacy, and fulfillment. Our human mind often finds difficulty in understanding this concept between freedom and boundaries especially when it involves our personal satisfaction.

For example, God’s desire is to have a personal relationship with you. He has provided the means, historical evidence, and reward system to make us aware of HIS intentions. Yet, many choose to refrain from sharing life with HIM. He created the human procreation method for more people to have the opportunity to invest life with HIM. HE even designed sexual intimacy between a man and woman as an example of the love HE wants to share with each of us.

The Hebrew Bible over 900 times refers to this intimacy as Yada – intimately knowing. The Bible in Genesis uses this phrase when a couple are having sexual relations as Adam yada Eve. In Psalms, King David expresses this phrase multiple times as being in a state of yada with God. Yada typically expresses the covenant bond between two parties. This covenant bond is found within a Biblical Christian marriage. The marriage commitment between a man and woman creates the safe space for two people to experience the yada relationship between each other and the relationship God has for us.

The sexuality trap is separating God from sex. When God is left out of the relationship, so are the morals and boundaries of human expression. The trap is sprung when sex becomes a commodity only to satisfy one’s desire rather than an intimate time to share oneself authentically with another. When the sex act becomes an addiction of pleasing one’s emotional cravings, one has sold themselves to the slavery of sin. One has lost the freedom found in true love and buried themselves into the pornographic virtual world of make believe. Again, when one becomes chained in the prison of sin, their best hope is found in the grace of God and HIS teachings on eternal values.

God’s covenant love expressed through HIS relationship with the people of Israel and HIS church set’s us the important example of the sexual encounter. Through the sexual act we come to intimately know someone. God’s covenant with HIS people is HIM giving 100% of HIMSELF in relationship with us so we can come to know HIM better. Not 50%-50%; not 80%-20%, but 100%. HE is constantly giving 100% of HIMSELF into the relationship.

Many of us humans operate within marriage from a contractual viewpoint. If the other side doesn’t fulfill their part of the contract, we believe it gives us an out. So, we divorce and move on to the next relationship to repeat the process over again. But God’s covenant agreement is not contractual, but one sided. In a successful marriage, each side is giving 100% of themselves to the other.

God created us as sexual beings so we can have a taste of HIS desire for us. HE yearns for us to come and know HIM – to yada HIM as HE yada us. Likewise, our human sexual desire imitates HIS desire for us. To freely share the sexual experience solely with another person committed to the relationship until death do us part leads to coming to know more who God IS and HIS love for us.

Having multiple sexual encounters is like worshiping multiple gods. When you choose the one Triune God and only worship HIM, you embarked on an adventurous, joyous journey. However, when you chase after false idols, you experience the frustration and disappointment of never finding your one true love. 

Enjoying sex outside the committed relationship of marriage is falling into the trap of slavery to sin. Sin is living outside of God’s created order of real harmony where true freedom, flourishment, and fulfillment is found. Real abundant living includes a healthy expression of sexuality between two people in a committed relationship for life. There they learn and experience the joyous meaning of Yada.

The God-ordained institution of marriage when fully understood and practiced according to the covenant principal of yada leads to real freedom, flourishment, and fulfillment. The results are good for couples, children, and society as a whole. But when sex is extracted outside of marriage, and God is removed from the relationship, sex becomes a discounted-store commodity. What was designed for two people to experience life to the fullest becomes an uncontrollable addiction leading to pain and misery in the long-term.

This is why the writer of Hebrews emphasized that the marriage relationship is a higher honor and value than just having sexual encounters with uncommitted bedfellows. Don’t be fooled by the lies and traps of culture. Learn what God recommends. You will be pleasantly at awe by the outcome.


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Dr. Mike

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Pro Life: A Biblical Perspective

Deuteronomy 30:15

 “See, I have set before you today life and good, death and evil. (ESV)

What is God’s position on life?

Though Scripture nowhere specifically discusses the subject of abortion, there are many Scriptures which emphasizes the Triune God’s stance for protecting the life of the vulnerable (Ps 82:3; Jer. 22:3; Mal 3:5) and HIS purpose for mankind (Eph 1:5,9,11).

He created life (Gen. 1) and sustains life (Job 34:14-15). And HE also wants us to learn how to choose between life and death (Deut. 30:19) HE wants us to view life the way HE does. HE hates death and the destruction of life. Paul writes that death is the last enemy to be destroyed (1 Cor. 15:26). Jesus stated HE came so we may live life more abundantly (Jn. 10:10).  HE even emphasizes that little children are the perfect example of the type of people we need to become to enter into HIS Kingdom (Lk.18:16). Children are dependent on others for their survival as we trustfully are with God.

HE views every unborn child conceived in the womb as an offspring of HIS. Psalm 127:3 reminds us that children are a reward from the Lord. Psalm 139:13 & Isaiah 44:24 states HE is involved with us even within the womb, before we are birth.

An example is Jeremiah 1:5 which shows God had specific plans for him before he was even born. (How many of those 60 million abortions over the last 50 years were people whose purpose were to find a cure for cancer, restore family values, and help eliminate social destructive tenancies.)

His purpose from the beginning of creation is to resurrect a people who will join HIM in eternity working within HIS Kingdom (Rev 20:1-4). The enemy, Satan, knows his time is short and is doing everything possible to prevent the growth of God’s Kingdom (Rev.12). The adversary’s mission is to steal, kill, and destroy (Jn10:10). Abortion is one means of fulfilling the mission of Satan. He is frantically preventing the birth of children in his anger against God.

In fact, humanity is now in the womb of a new creation (Jn.3, 2 Cor. 5:17) waiting for birth into a new age. Some will choose to abort their relationship with the Almighty and others will diligently hang in there (Matt. 24:13) for the birth into a new world prepared before the foundation of the world (Rev. 21:1, Titus 1:2).

Those of us who understand redemption, which includes submitting our bodies under the authority of Jesus Christ, and being formed into HIS character, faithfully and honorably now represent HIS Kingdom to an ungodly culture. In love and truth, we are HIS witnesses to a life worth living now and one which awaits us in the future.

Meanwhile, we all have a choice to make. We can choose either life or death, good or evil (Deut. 30:15-20). So, now you may better understand whenever you find me in doubt or unsure, I choose life. I hope the same is true for you.

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Dr. Mike

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Afraid – Now What?

Hebrews 13:6

So we can confidently say, “The Lord is my helper; I will not fear; what can man do to me?”

Romans 8:15

For you did not receive the spirit of slavery to fall back into fear, but you have received the Spirit of adoption as sons, by whom we cry, “Abba! Father!”

Luke 12:32

“Fear not, little flock, for it is your Father’s good pleasure to give you the kingdom.

Luke 12:4

“I tell you, my friends, do not fear those who kill the body, and after that have nothing more that they can do.

Mark 5:36

But overhearing what they said, Jesus said to the ruler of the synagogue, “Do not fear, only believe.”

We are all afraid at one time or another. But it’s how we respond thereafter that counts.

If we allow fear to possess us, we become frozen and unable to effectively respond to the situation. Yet when we use fear as the trigger point to take appropriate action and proactively manage the situation, fear dissipates into oblivion.

God gave us emotions to experience the good HE created. When we find ourselves in a pleasant situation, we may experience happiness and contentment. And when we likewise find ourselves in an unpleasant moment, our negative emotions capture the situation waiting for a response.

Fear is one of those emotions that alert us to potential harm. How we react though is a matter of experience, character, and maturity.

Fear is good. Why? Because it alerts us to potential problems. Fear is also bad. Why? Because we may not favorably respond to the situation which may lead to more future pain and sorrow.

When we realize most fear is based on our imagination or previous negative experiences with similar situations, we can take steps now to prepare ourselves for such a moment.

How? By equipping yourself with a belief system built on an eternal foundation proven over time by many individuals facing similar trials and tests in life. 

Scripture reminds us of the power of belief in Christ and the ramifications of such faith. As we walk with our Lord through the ups and downs of life, we develop the experience of trusting HIM to help us in our ordeals. As we pray and live in HIS presence knowing our purpose in HIS macro plan for mankind that includes you and me, we know our future is secure.

Though we may suffer pain or the inconvenience of the situation, we have seen over time the character HE has produced in us to master the situation.

Through the years of walking with HIM and catching HIS teachings through many different events and situations, one gains maturity and becomes more equip with the character and knowledge built upon previous experiences to trust God in all circumstances.

Yes, we may see fear pounce at us in unexpected moment. But now realize fear means I need to respond trusting God to show me how best to get out of the situation. Through the process, we learn how our belief and trust in the Almighty converts our fear into the trigger point of action which builds more character in us and glorifies HIM at the end. In other words, fear is another means to grow in experience, character, and maturity within Christ.   

Afraid – turn to God Almighty and begin the process of sanctification where you will experience the love, joy, and peace which abides with HIM.

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Dr. Mike

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