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What Does the Bible Reveal About Marriage?

Dr. Mike 2025 , ,

Let marriage be held in honor among all…   Heb 13:4

Marriage is more than a human institution. The Bible indicates that marriage portrays God’s relationship with humanity. In marriage, we taste life as God intends life to be. Two people becoming one in purpose, mind, and soul.

The entire theme in the Bible portrays marriage as a God-ordained institution. In Genesis 2, God made woman as a partner for Adam. HIS instructions were that man leave his parents and cling to his wife and become one.

The Ten Commandments emphasize the importance of having a good relationship with others. For example, father and mother (5th) are to be honored for the sake of the family. One also needs to refrain from adultery(7th). And one ought not covet their neighbor’s spouse(10th).

The prophets often spoke about the marriage relationship between God and Israel. How God will divorce Israel for her unfaithfulness. Yet HE continues to restore the relationship every time it fractured.

Jesus spoke often of marriage. His parables included marriage scenarios. The apostle Paul wrote about marriage. He outlined practical advice in his letters to the Corinthians, Timothy, and Ephesians. He explained the challenges and the blessings of marriage living in the end times.

The apostle John highlighted marriage in the Book of Revelation. The resurrection is the marriage fulfillment between Jesus and HIS fiancé the Church.

From beginning to end, the value of marriage is emphasized throughout the Bible.

There is no problem with the marriage institution. The problem is with people who are broken. People who have seen marriage failures rather relationship bliss. People who are afraid to make a lifetime commitment with another. People who focus on the downside risk rather than the upside purpose.

Without God, marriage could easily become a boxing match between two strong-willed people. When one’s desires are not satisfied, one blames the other. When one’s life is falling apart, they blame the other rather than look inward.

Marriage is for the mature childlike believer who knows God is doing a work in them. They understand marriage is the safe harbor with a trusting mate. Someone who has made the same commitment to carry each other over the finish line. They know marriage is also the framework for God to complete HIS work in us. To chisel away the destructive attitudes and habits which enslave us to ourselves.

As we practice the Triune way, the new creation becomes real. As we mutually submit and encourage one another, marriage becomes heaven on earth. We begin to experience life the way God does. HIS love, joy, and peace become real within the bonds of marriage. Two people are becoming one patterned after their God. Like their elderly brother Jesus, they are learning the Way. The way God created life to be.

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Dr. Mike

Faith-Integrator, Encourager, Scribbler

“We continually ask God to fill you with the knowledge of his will through all the wisdom and understanding that the Spirit gives,” (Colossians 1:9)

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Sexual Immorality

Dr. Mike 2024 , , ,

“For this is the will of God, your sanctification: that you abstain from sexual immorality; that each one of you know how to control his own body in holiness and honor, not in the passion of lust like the Gentiles who do not know God; that no one transgress and wrong his brother in this matter, because the Lord is an avenger in all these things, as we told you beforehand and solemnly warned you. For God has not called us for impurity, but in holiness. Therefore whoever disregards this, disregards not man but God, who gives his Holy Spirit to you.   1 Thessalonians 4:3-8

Sex on my left. Sex on my right. Sex in front of me and behind. Sex through my eyes, and through my ears. Whichever way I look or hear, sex is shoved into my mind.

What was once sacred between two people is now irresponsibly available for anyone to enjoy. The life-long benefits of a committed two-person relationship are being destroyed. The victims include families, children, and society at large.

What God designed as an intimate, private matter between a married couple is now mass distributed via the airwaves. What God intended to bind two people together into one flesh has become an overindulged, cheapen commodity sold in the marketplace.

God created sex for the marriage bed (Heb.13:4). Humanity though, like most of God’s gifts from creation, has overly satiated their carnal desires into a destructive addiction. Rather than bath in the holiness of God, carnal nature tramples itself into a lustful state of passionate extreme. The result is a soul darken without joyous love and restful peace.

God wants what is best for humanity. He designed the human spirit for purpose and meaning. HE created life to be enjoyed. But humanity does not want to believe the Triune God. The carnal heart is spoiled with self-aggrandizement. Human nature wants to decide for themselves what is good and evil apart from God. The fruit identifies the health of a tree. And God’s design for sex when exercised within HIS boundaries leads to a healthy relationship between two people who are committed to a life-long marriage.

Your sexual habits are a strong indicator of your heart with God.

When the Acts 15 conference was settled, sexual immorality was one of the four foundations the Gentiles were to follow rather than the Jewish law. Those who practice sexual immorality are placing themselves outside of God’s sanctuary city (Rev. 22:14-15). They are excluded from inheriting God’s Kingdom (Eph 5:5). Rather than bath themselves in holiness, they saturate their carnal desire. Their soul lies empty. Rather than fill the hole with God’s Spirit, they seek out worldly gods to please them. The result only produces transient relationships. An artificial facade which quickly cracks and breaks. The pain is real. The soul again cries for help. But the heart is stubborn. Rather than change their perspective about God, they indulge themselves into another carnal passion. Sex makes them feel good for a few moments. But soon the emptiness grows. The soul again cries for godliness, but the pride fights the call for repentance.   

Sex without lifelong commitment and faithfulness to one person is idolatry in God’s eye.  God made a commitment to you. He wants the same in return. When we do, we experience life the way God intended one to live. When another god comes between you and HIM, we lose out of fully experiencing the love and joy HE provides. God created sex for procreation. He wants to resurrect humanity into a heavenly family. But HE also designed it for mutual pleasure between a husband and wife. Two people learning to love and care for one another while raising a family. Healthy families lead to healthy societies. When sex is used outside the marriage bed, it depletes and cheapens marriage. When marriage is destroyed, so is the family structure. All this leads to more turmoil and the unbinding of social structures. Eventually you have a world in chaos where transgressions grow and evil abounds. Not a pleasant place to live.

Flee sexual immorality are wise words ( 1 Corinthians 6:18). Both for yourself. The other person. And for society. Instead, let God’s Spirit fill you. Since we are HIS temple the church, let’s make holiness the aim. For holiness opens the door to experience the fruit of HIS Spirit and the righteousness of Jesus Christ. This is the life God created for us to enjoy. And with sex reserved within marriage, the life-long bond between two people with a Christ-centered focus makes life even more enriching!   

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Dr. Mike

Faith-Integrator, Encourager, Scribbler

“We continually ask God to fill you with the knowledge of his will through all the wisdom and understanding that the Spirit gives,” (Colossians 1:9)

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Sexuality Trap

Dr. Mike 2022 , , , ,

Hebrews 13:4

Let marriage be held in honor among all, and let the marriage bed be undefiled, for God will judge the sexually immoral and adulterous.

Yes, God created sex. Not only did HE create the biological male and female, but also the physical and emotional pleasure and enjoyment of the act. Like everything else HE designed, sex also has a purpose within HIS plan. Now God is not prudish but understands human behavior and emotion since HE purposely designed us with the sexual desire in place.

Now many of us in the 21st century erroneously believe freedom means choosing and doing whatever we desire. Yes, freedom gives you the option to choose whatever you desire, but each choice also has consequences. A choice that leads you to your destruction stills allows you to exercise your freedom, but the end result may remove any further freedom you possess.

The Bible instructs us how sex without Godly boundaries leads to a self-imposed dark hole. But on the other hand, sex with healthy boundaries leads to freedom of expression, intimacy, and fulfillment. Our human mind often finds difficulty in understanding this concept between freedom and boundaries especially when it involves our personal satisfaction.

For example, God’s desire is to have a personal relationship with you. He has provided the means, historical evidence, and reward system to make us aware of HIS intentions. Yet, many choose to refrain from sharing life with HIM. He created the human procreation method for more people to have the opportunity to invest life with HIM. HE even designed sexual intimacy between a man and woman as an example of the love HE wants to share with each of us.

The Hebrew Bible over 900 times refers to this intimacy as Yada – intimately knowing. The Bible in Genesis uses this phrase when a couple are having sexual relations as Adam yada Eve. In Psalms, King David expresses this phrase multiple times as being in a state of yada with God. Yada typically expresses the covenant bond between two parties. This covenant bond is found within a Biblical Christian marriage. The marriage commitment between a man and woman creates the safe space for two people to experience the yada relationship between each other and the relationship God has for us.

The sexuality trap is separating God from sex. When God is left out of the relationship, so are the morals and boundaries of human expression. The trap is sprung when sex becomes a commodity only to satisfy one’s desire rather than an intimate time to share oneself authentically with another. When the sex act becomes an addiction of pleasing one’s emotional cravings, one has sold themselves to the slavery of sin. One has lost the freedom found in true love and buried themselves into the pornographic virtual world of make believe. Again, when one becomes chained in the prison of sin, their best hope is found in the grace of God and HIS teachings on eternal values.

God’s covenant love expressed through HIS relationship with the people of Israel and HIS church set’s us the important example of the sexual encounter. Through the sexual act we come to intimately know someone. God’s covenant with HIS people is HIM giving 100% of HIMSELF in relationship with us so we can come to know HIM better. Not 50%-50%; not 80%-20%, but 100%. HE is constantly giving 100% of HIMSELF into the relationship.

Many of us humans operate within marriage from a contractual viewpoint. If the other side doesn’t fulfill their part of the contract, we believe it gives us an out. So, we divorce and move on to the next relationship to repeat the process over again. But God’s covenant agreement is not contractual, but one sided. In a successful marriage, each side is giving 100% of themselves to the other.

God created us as sexual beings so we can have a taste of HIS desire for us. HE yearns for us to come and know HIM – to yada HIM as HE yada us. Likewise, our human sexual desire imitates HIS desire for us. To freely share the sexual experience solely with another person committed to the relationship until death do us part leads to coming to know more who God IS and HIS love for us.

Having multiple sexual encounters is like worshiping multiple gods. When you choose the one Triune God and only worship HIM, you embarked on an adventurous, joyous journey. However, when you chase after false idols, you experience the frustration and disappointment of never finding your one true love. 

Enjoying sex outside the committed relationship of marriage is falling into the trap of slavery to sin. Sin is living outside of God’s created order of real harmony where true freedom, flourishment, and fulfillment is found. Real abundant living includes a healthy expression of sexuality between two people in a committed relationship for life. There they learn and experience the joyous meaning of Yada.

The God-ordained institution of marriage when fully understood and practiced according to the covenant principal of yada leads to real freedom, flourishment, and fulfillment. The results are good for couples, children, and society as a whole. But when sex is extracted outside of marriage, and God is removed from the relationship, sex becomes a discounted-store commodity. What was designed for two people to experience life to the fullest becomes an uncontrollable addiction leading to pain and misery in the long-term.

This is why the writer of Hebrews emphasized that the marriage relationship is a higher honor and value than just having sexual encounters with uncommitted bedfellows. Don’t be fooled by the lies and traps of culture. Learn what God recommends. You will be pleasantly at awe by the outcome.

   

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Dr. Mike

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