Love Trap     

John 13:34

A new commandment I give to you, that you love one another: just as I have loved you, you also are to love one another.

1 John 3:18

Little children, let us not love in word or talk but in deed and in truth.

How can love be a trap? Isn’t love the most important attribute we desire?

And since God is Love, is God a trap?

You probably have also thought of other questions as your curiosity reads. But yes, love in all its supreme condition can be an illusion unless one is careful to build on the foundation of reality. Since God is real, and God is love (1 Jn. 4:8), than love is real. But lying to self is also a reality.

The love trap is falling into the crater of illusion confusing the attribute solely as an inner emotional feeling rather than an outward active response.

It is the young teenagers who love one another and want to quit school so they may marry and have a happy life. It is the infatuation taking the emotional control of a person without grasping at reality. It is typically narrowing love to a single event or person and forgetting everything else.

In addition, culture has cheapened love. Advertisers demonstrate that “love” is obtained through a product. Our toys, cars, and kitchen appliances are the articles that express our intense “love” as consumers.

Hollywood portrays sex as the ultimate expression of “love”. Two strangers meet in the hotel lobby and then find themselves passionately “making love” one hour later.

Culture may create illusions of love, but Jesus reminds us throughout his life that real love is sacrificial service for the sake of others. Love is action rather than a feeling. Love is outward concern for the other rather than self-rewarding.

Love is demonstrated by the strong helping the weak. The wealthy uplifting the poor. The educated teaching the illiterate. The mother or father sacrificing a career for the sake of raising children. Throughout history, those who have sacrificed for the sake of others have experienced real love without seeking it.

A husband who sacrifices his desires to please his wife and the wife who sacrifices her desires to please her husband demonstrates God’s love in action.

When leaders seek to serve their followers through deeds built upon the truth of reality rather than propaganda or market spin, exhibit God’s love in action. 

Love is not rhetoric nor an academic expression of feelings. Love is outward action built upon eternal values of reality.

We are thankful Jesus established a new standard to measure love: HIMSELF. His example of sacrificial service for others is the real standard of love.

Rooting For You in Christ!

Dr. Mike

Encourager & Author of e-Books 

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Feeling Filter

John 8:32

and you will know the truth, and the truth will set you free.”

Inflated Feelings Face Filter |

Some people, if not many, operate from a base of feelings. They use their feelings to measure and evaluate the circumstances they are in. They believe their feelings are accurate and reflect reality at the moment. Yet scientists recognize feelings in many cases are deceitful.

We may incorrectly witness a situation which causes us to misread the event and fling our mind and body into unnecessary fear mode. Or we may likewise see something which we interpret as pleasant and smile at the situation not realizing that a most horrific event just occurred. If we evaluate and discern reality solely through the filter of feelings, we of most people will be walking in a state of mental confusion.

I recall once consulting with the President of a national company asking questions to determine his style of leadership and management. His answers initially shocked me but gave us the direction of the type of facts we needed to gather to either confirm or deny his statements. After collecting data, facts, and survey results, our hypothesis proved correct. His fear-mongering leadership style and managing operations based on feelings has led the company into a destructive position which required an outsider to provide solutions to help the Company survive. We did.

When you are ruled by your feelings, you may be correct fifty percent of the time simply from a probability perspective. However, if you want to be correct most of the time, then you need to filter your feelings with logic and reasoning built on evidential facts. And that requires a proven value system, a strong understanding of human history and its behavior, along with analysis of the situation. All these skills are available to be developed if one chooses.  

In addition, God has also given each of us a conscience to discern moral implications. But it needs to be exercised under HIS domain or over time will become harden into a destructive, blind, and ineffective instrument. Our conscience is God’s gift to us. When followed along with HIS words of Truth enlighten our decision-making abilities.

As we gather facts of the matter and weigh the facts against the event, we slowly develop the real picture of the situation. This is why it is dangerous to make quick decisions on a matter when it is not necessary. One needs to gather facts from all sides to properly determine what actually happen.

Our feelings may play a part of the equation, but most often they are only the warning bell. And like the story of the boy hollering “wolf” so often, basing one’s conclusion simply on feeling has led many of us down the wrong path. We need to filter those feelings against solid evidence. Otherwise, we will get into an ugly habit of being thrown from one wall against another based on our emotional roller coaster ride.

Feelings require facts and facts need emotional feeling. Both are necessary to properly evaluate reality and generate a proper response. When you study the life of Jesus as displayed throughout the gospel accounts, one finds a person who balanced facts with feelings and feelings with facts. He demonstrated the healthy and effective way of managing the human relationship. Let’s use HIM as our role model to learn the best way of filtering our feelings. When you learn from the best, you gain the most.

Rooting For You in Christ!

Dr. Mike

Encourager & Author of e-Books

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